Letters to the Editor	Letters Archive

'In' But 'Out'

Regarding the letter "Finds Love in MaleBox" [February 2008, available at Guidemag.com], it's funny how a guy who has found love by meeting a guy in prison speaks so terribly about prisoners.

Shouldn't we as gay men be tired of being judged, when all of our lives we've been picked on, scrutinized, and ridiculed because of our sexuality? Because of all that, I've always been "in the closet." At least, until I came across The Guide magazine.

I felt that by placing an ad in The Guide I could interact with other guys in hopes of finding that special one without being laughed at or judged. But, being that I'm incarcerated, you mean to tell me, that the people I'm coming to for comfort are going to put me down? Just because I'm locked up doesn't mean I can't love unconditionally.

T

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erry Norris
Milton, Florida

Gay Male Relationships Doomed

After reading your February 2008 editorial ("A Valentine's Message," available at Guidemag.com), I realize it's too bad that you have no concept of love. It is in your DNA. Men rarely do. What men do well is infinite attraction, which means men are never satisfied, they always want more.

This is quite different from women: lesbians have no bathhouses, and are quite disgusted with the "pink" pages which were once part of the main Washington Blade where gays advertised body parts as if they were totally disconnected from their minds. Indeed they are. As a man, your body parts are entirely separate, and the blood pumping one is needed by the other, so your penis and your brain cannot operate in unison, but exclusively.

The sadness comes from the data on how this works out for gays and lesbians, each lacking the others' predisposition. You would do well to study these statistics, which explain how dysfunctional both male and female pairing become in terms of life expectancy and depression rates when they lack the other's synergistic skills. The coupling of gays and lesbians is genetically doomed to failure. However, it can be salvaged if you were to consider the option of compensating for your genetic deficiency. Just as a tall person can bow to get into a car, or a fat person can eat less, you could consider the concept of reality instead of denial.

from Slipstream
via email

Reader Photos at Guidemag.com?

Just an idea for you. It could be fun for the people in the gay scene to have photo souvenir album from your readers [at Guidemag.com]. Example: people could send to you photo from the past in the gay nightlife scene from the '80s and earlier -- photos about bars that are now closed, parties in the gay village, etc. Maybe you could start your archive before 1999

Vive le Guide!

Bruno
Quebec City, Quebec

Thanks, Bruno. As you've noted we do have over a decade's worth of our own photos online at Guidemag.com, many thousands from all over the world. Indeed, allowing readers to post their own favorites might prove a popular feature; we'll keep it in mind as we consider ongoing improvements to Guidemag.com!

Taking No Prisoners

Thanks for placing my ad in MaleBox. I received hundreds of replies during the nine months it ran, but to my dismay, most were from prisoners, so I have to ask you add the words, "No prisoners."

G. Russell
Rolla, North Dakota

'Prescient and scholarly'

I am always impressed by your consistently prescient views and scholarly writing on gay issues. Keep up the good work. You always present informative material that I am interested in.

D.W.M.
Everett, Washington

Jamaican Gets Many Replies

Thank you for running my MaleBox ad. I have received a remarkable number of replies!

Keep up the good work -- your publication really hits the spot: the feature articles and coverage of cities worldwide is appreciated.

Andy
Kingston, Jamaica